How To Stop Overcomplicating Life and Learn To Focus On The Things That Are Meaningful To You

I haven’t posted, or even written anything not resembling stream of consciousness, for about a month.

July was split between devoting my energies towards trying to please someone who cannot be satiated, leaving little left over for me; the other part was spent trying my damnedest to muster up that little bit of energy that was left, in hopes of moving forward along a path which would be beneficial to Future Amanda.

A month ago, I began taking a mindset class. I knew it was time to course correct, again, because for years, my mindset had been slowly declining. Even the work I had done throughout the previous year didn’t seem to be enough to shake me out of this slump.

I’ve written before about how my life had been overtaken with negativity, with thoughts and feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.

No one should ever feel that way.

So when I learned about a free class on mastering negativity, I immediately signed up.

And when I learned of an extended class I could take, to really delve into the one thing I was having so much trouble accomplishing on my own, I jumped at the chance.

Master Your Mindset. Or, How To Stop Overcomplicating Life and Learn To Focus On The Things That Are Meaningful To You, As An Individual.

I’ve come farther in the last 5 weeks than I feel I had with years of therapy. I wonder if that’s due, in part, to not going this road alone. I have a group of people on this journey with me. Their path is different; their successes will, of course, not mirror mine. But our challenges are the same. And we are all there with a similar goal.

Each class has a theme: Foundation, Success, Resilience, Power.

The ex-psych major in me is fascinated by exploring each topic. On the surface, some of the lessons might seem so obvious, but if the answers were truly that clear, so many people wouldn’t struggle the way they do. There wouldn’t be such disalignment and discord.

Drawing examples from my life; the situations and people in it, really help put these lessons into perspective.

Take the person above who I’ve been trying to please, to no avail. It took me awhile to separate out emotions. It’s still a struggle to not take their actions so personally, but I’m coming around to realize that it’s them, not me. They are the way they are, due to whatever path they’ve been on that has led them here.

That’s a path that I am not responsible for. Taking on that responsibility was one of the weights that had been keeping me down.

From where they stand, they are correct. Just like how, from my point of view, I am.

I might never understand their “why.” And as it turns out, I don’t need to. Uncovering their reasoning probably won’t make me feel better. It won’t help me come around to their way of thinking. But working on myself can help me handle whatever they throw at me.

A few days ago, a friend of mine commented that since I began this course, she could see a difference in me. I still don’t.

But each week I get a little closer.